Know why Victoria's Secret models always look so amazing in photos (aside from their good genes)? They own it! Models like Miranda Kerr and Candice Swanepoel pose and smile like they are the most beautiful girls in the room, and we believe them. Feeling low on confidence? Keep this in mind: Your guy wouldn't be in the bedroom with you unless he was attracted to you!
When it comes to sex, stress is the last thing that should be on your mind. If you are feeling a little anxious, try taking some time before the big night to decompress and relax. Try a warm bath with some great bubbles, like Fresh Citron De Vigne Bath & Shower Gel ($18.50, Fresh.com).
It's almost impossible to be in the mood when you know you aren't looking your best, so brighten up your skin with Per-fkt Body Perfection Gel. The body cream ($48, Perfektbeauty.com) almost works like makeup for your body. A light sheen of color and shea butter is used to cover up any imperfections you're worried about showing.
Hair that's voluminous and a little unkempt can be ridiculously hot, so try using a volumizing mousse on wet hair, like Arrojo Volume Foam ($16, Store.Arrojoproduct.com). If you want to create some sexy waves, use the Goody Wave Creator ($32.99, Ulta.com). The unique spiral shape makes shaping your locks incredibly easy.
It goes without saying, but there will hopefully be a lot of making out before any real action begins. Don't cover yourself with lipstick, as this will be more of a turn-off than a turn-on. Instead, opt for something a bit more sensual, like Booty Parlor's Kissaholic Aphrodisiac Plumping Lip Gloss ($16, Drugstore.com). It's barely tinted and the taste is one you'll both enjoy.
"The most important thing is to try to live in the moment and be present," says Claire Cavanah, Co-Founder of Babeland and Co-Author of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Don't jump into the future or get stuck in the past, just be where you are and do what you're doing." Not only does this tip keep your anxious feelings at bay, but it helps you to focus on the task at hand.
According to Cavanah, "Negative self-talk is the surest way to cut yourself off from the pleasure that you deserve." So don't get stuck on the small details, like what bikini grooming trends you should be adhering to. None of that will actually matter in the moment.
The worst thing you can do in bed is make the whole experience about him. Ask yourself what you want and what you like. The better a particular position feels, the more it will show, and what's hotter than that?